Thursday, August 02, 2007

Mistakes Are an Opportunities For Learning Something New

This is a story about a famous research scientist who had made several very important medical breakthroughs. He was being interviewed by a newspaper reporter who asked him why he thought he was able to be so much more creative than the average person. What set him so far apart from others?

He responded that, in his opinion, it all came from an experience with his mother that occurred when he was about two years old. He had been trying to remove a bottle of milk from the refrigerator when he lost his grip on the slippery bottle and it fell, spilling its contents all over the kitchen floor-a veritable sea of milk!

When his mother came into the kitchen, instead of yelling at him, giving him a lecture, or punishing him, she said, "Robert, I have rarely seen such a huge puddle of milk. Well, the damage has already been done. Would you like to get down and play in the milk for a few minutes before we clean it up?"

Indeed, he did. After a few minutes, his mother said, "You know, Robert, whenever you make a mess like this, eventually you have to clean it up and restore everything to its proper order. So, how would you like to do that? We could use a sponge, a towel, or a mop. Which do you prefer?" He chose the sponge and together they cleaned up the spilled milk.

His mother then said, "You know, what we have here is a failed experiment in how to effectively carry a big milk bottle with two tiny hands. Let's go out in the back yard and fill the bottle with water and see if you can discover a way to carry it without dropping it." The little boy learned that if he grasped the bottle at the top near the lip with both hands, he could carry it without dropping it. What a wonderful lesson!

This renowned scientist then remarked that it was at that moment that he knew he didn't need to be afraid to make mistakes. Instead, he learned that mistakes were just opportunities for learning something new, which is, after all, what scientific experiments are all about. Even if the experiment "doesn't work," we usually learn something valuable from it.

Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, you learn from them… however there is one thing to remember along with this great story …...try not to repeat them!

Wednesday, August 01, 2007

Turning Stress into Success !!!

To overcome stress, first realize that some stress is helpful. Second, be aware that stress is only troublesome when it continues for too long or if there is too much of it. And, third, recognize symptoms as early as possible.

Fourth. Identify causes. Change is one of the chief causes of stress. An accumulation of life's everyday annoyances can also build up a significant stress level--perhaps even more than one single traumatic event. As the old saying puts it:

"It's the little things that bother us,
and put us on the rack;
you can sit upon a mountain,
but you can't sit on a tack."

Whatever the cause of your stress is, identify it so you can do something about it.

Fifth. Seek a practical cure.

1. The starting point to turn stress into success is to lessen your load. Fifty percent of the cure can come from writing down all your cares and responsibilities in order of priority, then eliminating the least important.

2. Remember that Superman and Superwoman exist only in comic books and films. Everybody has a breaking point, so recognize yours and call a halt before you reach your limit.

3. With stress comes pent-up feelings. Get them "off your chest" by sharing them with a trusted friend or counselor. This brings some immediate relief and helps you to think and plan more objectively.

4. Stop fighting situations that can't be changed. As one father told his impatient teenager, "If you would only realize and accept the fact that life is a struggle, things would be so much easier for you." Learning to live with and get on top of struggles is what helps us grow and mature.

5. Try to avoid making too many major life changes during the course of a single year.

6. If you hold resentment towards another person, resolve your difference(s) right away. Never "let the sun go down with you still angry."

7. Make time for rest and relaxation. Learn to "come apart and rest awhile before you come apart."

8. Watch your diet and eating habits. When under stress we tend to overeat--especially junk food which increases stress. A balanced diet of proteins, vitamins, and fiber, without white sugar, caffeine, too much fat, alcohol and nicotine, is essential for lowering stress and its effects.

9. Get plenty of physical exercise. This keeps you healthier and helps burn up excess adrenaline caused by stress and its accompanying anxiety.

10. The ultimate answer to turning stress into success is to learn to trust God and live in harmony with his will for your daily life. As our Scripture verse for today says, "Don't worry about anything, instead, pray about everything; tell God your needs and don't forget to thank him for his answers. If you do this you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand."

God's peace comes through accepting, and trusting to God, those circumstances that can't be changed, however difficult they may be. Perhaps this is what Christ meant when he spoke of taking up our cross daily and following him. Certainly he fully accepted his cross and trusted his situation to God and thereby was totally vindicated.

Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Hopes & Wishes Are Diluted Forms of Aspiration

Hope is vitally important but it rarely is of such sufficiency that we are elevated by it. It is a saving grace rather than an elevating one.

Hopes and wishes are diluted forms of aspiration. THEY REPRESENT WILL WITHOUT DETERMINATION.

Don't permit your thinking to be passive or fanciful. Evaluate each hope and wish and decide whether or not such are the objects of your heart'desire. DO YOU REALLY WANT THESE THINGS WITH A SUFFICIENT DETERMINATION THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO PAY THE PRICE FOR THE ATTAINMENT?

WISHING WILL NEVER MAKE IT SO. If we really want something we must decide positively, once and for all. DOES OUR WILLINGNESS TO PAY THE PRICE SATISFY THE AMBITION?

HOPES AND WISHES HAVE A BAD HABIT OF LIVING IN THE FUTURE AND DYING IN THE PRESENT.Their tomorrow will never be real,genuine and meaningful for us unless and until WE COMMENCE ACTING ON THEM TODAY.

Monday, July 30, 2007

Benefits of Struggling!!!

A man found a cocoon of a butterfly. One day a small opening appeared, and he sat and watched the butterfly for several hours as it struggled to force its body through that little hole. Then it seemed to stop making any progress. It appeared as if it had gotten as far as it could and it could go no farther.

Then the man decided to help the butterfly, so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The butterfly then emerged easily. But it had a swollen body and small, shriveled wings.

The man continued to watch the butterfly because he expected that at any moment the wings would enlarge and expand to be able to support the body, which would contract in time. Neither happened! In fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its life crawling around with a swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly.

What the man in his kindness and haste did not understand was that the restricting cocoon and the struggle required for the butterfly to get through the tiny opening were God's way of forcing fluid from the body of the butterfly into its wings so that it would be ready for flight once it achieved its freedom from the cocoon.

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If God allowed us to go through our life without any obstacles, it would cripple us. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. And we could never fly.

Friday, July 27, 2007

Change Is Your own Power of Choice

Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it all.
Any day we wish; we can open the book that will open our mind
to new knowledge. Any day we wish; we can start a new activity.
Any day we wish; we can start the process of life change. We
can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year.

We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And
if the idea of having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable,
we can remain as we are. We can choose rest over labor,
entertainment over education, delusion over truth, and doubt over
confidence. The choices are ours to make. But while we curse the
effect, we continue to nourish the cause. As Shakespeare uniquely
observed, "The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves." We
created our circumstances by our past choices.

We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better
choices beginning today. Those who are in search of the good life
do not need more answers or more time to think things over to reach
better conclusions. They need the truth. They need the whole truth.
And they need nothing but the truth.

We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead
us down the wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics
that make the biggest difference in how our life works out. And
then we must make the very choices that will bring life, happiness
and joy into our daily lives.

And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone
seeking and needing to make changes in their life - If you don't like
how things are, change it! You're not a tree. You have the ability to
totally transform every area in your life - and it all begins with
your very own power of choice.

Tuesday, July 24, 2007

If You Have a Dream !!!

Don't wait for some distant day to come,
it may be too late before you've even begun.
Not everyone will agree with all you decide.

Be true to yourself first and foremost.
The only important thing in life is what
you do with the time you spend here on earth.

Don't cloud today with things that can't
be undone. You have no more control over
yesterday or tomorrow, than you do the raging
of your passions.

Do not quiet these dreams
nor quench your desires. For if you do,
your journey is ended.

You have only today to begin anew and
follow your dreams. For in the end all
we have are our memories.

When the twilight comes to us, let there
be, no excuses, no explanations,
no regrets!

- Unknown

Monday, July 23, 2007

Real Meaning of Peace....

There once was a King who offered a prize to the artist who would paint the best picture of peace.

Many artists tried.

The King looked at all the pictures, but there were only two he really liked and he had to choose between them.

One picture was of a calm lake.

The lake was a perfect mirror, for peaceful towering mountains were all around it. Overhead was a blue sky with fluffy white clouds. All who saw this picture thought that it was a perfect picture of peace.

The other picture had mountains, too.

But these were rugged and bare.
Above was an angry sky from which rain fell and in which lightening played.

Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall.

This did not look peaceful at all.

But when the King looked, he saw behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock.
In the bush a mother bird had built her nest.
There, in the midst of the rush of angry water, sat the mother bird on her nest... perfect peace.

Which picture do you think won the prize?

The King chose the second picture.
Do you know why?

"Because," explained the King, "peace does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble, or hard work.
Peace means to be in the midst of all those things and still be calm in your heart. That is the real meaning of peace."

May each one of you find peace... wherever you may be!!!