Inspiring Story - His Mom Only Had One Eye.

His mom only had one eye.

I hated her... She was such an embarrassment.. My mom ran a small shop at a flea market. She collected little weeds and such to sell... anything for the money we needed, she was such an embarrassment.

There was this one day during elementary school..it was field day, and my mom came. I was so embarrassed. how could she do this to me? threw her a hateful look and ran out.

The next day at school... "your mom only has one eye?!?!" ..and they taunted me.

I wished that my mom would just disappear from this world so I said to my mom, "mom.. why dont you have the other eye?! if you're only gonna make me a laughingstock, Why dont you just die?!!!" my mom did not respond.. I guess I felt a little bad, but at the same time, it felt good to think that I had said what I'd wanted to say all this time..

May be it was because my mom hadnt punished me, but I didn't think that I had hurt her feelings very badly.

that night...

I woke up, and went to the kitchen to get a glass of water. My mom was crying there, so quietly, as if she was afraid that she might wake me. I took a look at her, then turned away because of the thing I had said to her earlier, there was something pinching at me in the corner of my heart. Even so, I hated my mother who was crying out of her one eye. So I told myself that I would grow up and become successful, cause I hated; my one-eyed mom and our desperate poverty..

Then I studied real hard.

I left my mother and came to Seoul and studied, and got accepted in the Seoul University with all the confidence I had. then, I got married.

Ibought a house of my own. Then I had kids, too.. now I'm living happily as a successful man.

I like it here because it's a place that doesnt remind me of my mom. This happiness was getting bigger and bigger, When..

What?!

Who's this?!

...It was my mother.....Still with her one eye.

I felt as if the whole sky was falling apart on me. My little girl ran away, scared of my mom's eye.
and I asked her, "Who are you?!" "I dont know you!!!" as if trying to make that real. I screamed at her," How dare you come to my house and scare my daughter!"

"GET OUT OF HERE! NOW!!!"

and to this, my mother quietly answered, "Oh, I'm so sorry. I may have gotten the wrong address," and she disappeared out of sight. Thank good ness... She doesnt recognize me..I was quite relieved.

I told myself that I wasnt going to care, or think about this for the rest of my life. Then a wave of relief came upon me...

One day, a letter regarding a school reunion came to my house. So, lying to my wife that I was going on a business trip, I went. After the reunion, I went down to the old shack, that I used to call a house...just out of curiosity.

There, I found my mother fallen on the cold ground. but I did not shed a single tear. She had a piece of paper in her hand.... it was a letter to me.

My son...

I think my life has been long enough now.. and... i wont visit Seoul anymore...but would it be too much to ask if I wanted you to come visit me once in a while? I miss you so much.. and I was so glad when I heard you were coming for the reunion. But I decided not to go to the school. ...for you... and I'm sorry that Ionly have one eye, and I was an embarressment for you.

You see, when you were very little, you got into an accident, and lost your eye. As a mom, I couldn't stand watching you having to grow up with only one eye... So I gave you mine... I was so proud of my son that was seeing a whole new world for me, in my place, with that eye. I was never upset at you for anything you did.. The couple of times that you were angry with me,..I thought to myself, 'It's because he loves me..'

My son... Oh, my son...

I dont want you to cry for me, because of my death. please dont cry...my son, I love you so much

Remember:

People will forget what you said ...
People will forget what you did ...
But people will never forget how you made them feel ..

- Author Unknown

What Is Life ......

Life is full of thrills,
And life can be rough,
Yet life is full of chills,
And life can be tough,

Making decisions,
Fulfilling your dreams,
Choosing your future,
Isn't easy as it seems,

Dealing with pressure,
Dealing with school,
As people criticize you,
They make you look like a fool,

Drama and gossip,
Floating around,
People are talking,
No truth to be found,

Hang out with friends,
So the fun never ends,
Don't drink and drive,

..Maybe then you'll save a life,
Becareful who you trust...
Take a risk if you must,
Share all your laughter

Smile everyday
Forget all your problems
It's better that way,
Just know who you are,

Believe that you can make it
Live your life to the fullest.
And try not to break it.

- Author Unknown -

Use Your Probelms as Learning and Growth Experiences

One trait that almost all successful people have in common is the ability to turn negatives into positives. Disappointments and setbacks will come for everyone, even the super achievers. The difference with successful people is that they are able to benefit from everything that happens, positive or negative.

In fact, problems are a great source of opportunity. The way to change problems into opportunity is to adjust your attitude and your approach. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself and letting your problems get the best of you, take a proactive approach. Here are five steps that can turn problems into opportunities:

1. Emotionally detach yourself from the problem.
2. Don't get caught up in assigning blame.
3. Instead, determine why it happened and what can you do to keep it from happening again.
4. Ask yourself who else might have this problem.
5. If you knew this was going to happen again next month or next year, what would you do differently right now?

Moral :

Don't let your problems get the best of you. Instead, turn them into learning and growth experiences.

- Unknown

Proactive Thinking !!!

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.


QUESTIONS :

1. What were the five words ?
2. What is the implication of this story?


ANSWER :

The husband just said "I am with you Darling"

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior.
The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened.

No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. " A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Take off all your envies, jealousies,unforgiv eness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

MORAL OF THE STORY :

This story is really worth reading. ..... Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out something.


- Author Unknown

Self Esteem !!

How Can A person Build Self-Esteem?

The process is simple, but putting it to work is difficult. Self-esteem is built upon the experience of success. Think of it as a circular process. When people experience success, they grow in self-confidence. As self-confidence grows, they feel empowered to face new challenges. As they succeed in confronting each challenge, they develop the capacity to cope with whatever life throws their way. That feeling leads to further growth of self-confidence, self-reliance and self-esteem

To Maintain Healthy Self-Esteem. ..

* Celebrate your strengths and achievements.

* Forgive yourself for your mistakes.

* Don't dwell on your weaknesses, every human has them.

* Change the way you talk to yourself -- stop putting yourself down!

* Be sure that you are not judging yourself against unreasonable standards.

* Beating yourself for your weaknesses is self-defeating. Use that energy for positive thoughts about you.


People With High Self-Esteem Are...

* Able to accept and learn from their own mistakes.

* Confident without being obnoxious or conceited.

* Not devastated by criticism.

* Not overly defensive when questioned.

* Not easily defeated by setbacks and obstacles.

* Unlikely to feel a need to put others down.

* Open and assertive in communicating their needs.

* Not overly worried about failing or looking foolish.

* Not harshly or destructively critical of themselves.

* Not aggressively driven to prove themselves.

* Able to laugh at themselves, not taking themselves too seriously.


Why Do You Think You Have So Little Strengths Worth Celebrating?

* Because everyone has always pointed out your shortcomings?

* Because you rarely get any positive feedback for a job well done?

* Because the things you do well are so familiar to you that you take them for granted?

* Because you have learned to focus only on your mistakes?


When You Make A Mistake, Do You Say...?

* What an idiot! How can you be so stupid!

* Can't you get anything right! What a loser!

* There you go again! You are not really up to it, are you?

* Who else has talked to you this way in the past?


Why Are You Still Listening To Them?

* You can't change your past, but you can change the way you talk to yourself today.

* Start by making a LONG list of all the good things you have ever done.

* Catch yourself saying nasty things to yourself, then STOP.

* Recite your list of achievements to yourself.

* Convince yourself to be proud of what you have done and of what you are working on doing, on anything you have done for another person, on any improvement in your school work, or on how well you manage your time, your money, your friends, your schedule, etc.

Affirmations for Self-Esteem

There are many things I do successfully. (Write them down if you have to.)

* I can improve my self-esteem by meeting my own expectations.

* I don't have to strive for perfection to approve of myself.

* My worth as a human being does not depend on achieving a perfect weight, or by being the smartest, or the most popular, or the fastest, or having the highest grades, or being the funniest, or having the coolest friends, or getting into the best school, or... (You fill in the rest!)

* I alone am responsible for the decisions I make.

* I am an unique individual.

* Persistence will help me succeed.

* Every mistake I make can be an opportunity to learn. I can't be afraid to make mistakes; this is how I learn to improve.

* I deserve support and will ask for help when I need it.

* I have the power to forgive myself for past mistakes.

* I will treat myself as someone special.

* I determine what success means to me.


Now you make up some of your own!

What is Success?

* To laugh often and much;
* To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
* To earn the appreciation of honest critics And endure the betrayal of false friends;
* To appreciate beauty,
* To find the best in others,
* To leave the world a bit better; whether by a healthy child, A garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;
* To know that one life has breathed easier because you have lived.

This is to have succeeded.


* Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail."

* "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love & affection."


* Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear. Except a creature be part coward it is not a compliment to say it is brave."

* The stars are constantly shining, but often we do not see them until the dark hours."


Success comes not from the avoidance of failure. Most of the time, success is achieved only when there has been enough failure."


- Author unknown

Beautiful Inspiring Story

Down to nothing, God is up to something.

She jumped up as soon as she saw the surgeon come out of the operating room. She said: "How is my little boy ? Is he going to be all right ? When can I see him ?"

The surgeon said, "I'm sorry. We did all we could, but your boy didn't make it."

Sally said, "Why do little children get cancer ? Doesn't God care any more ? Where were you, God, when my son needed you ?"

The surgeon asked, "Would you like some time alone with your son ? One of the nurses will be out in a few minut es, before he's transported to the university."

Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she said good bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly through his thick red curly hair. "Would you like a lock of his hair ?" the nurse asked.

Sally nodded yes. T he nurse cut a lock of the boy's hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to Sally.


The mother said, "It was Jimmy's idea to donate his body to the University for Study. He said it might help somebody else. "I said no at first, but Jimmy said, 'Mom, I won't be using it after I die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend one more day with his Mom." She went on, "My Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of so meone else. Always wanting to help others if he could."

Sally walk! ed out of Children's Mercy Hospital for the last time, after spending most of the last six months there. She put the bag with Jimmy's belongings on the seat beside her in the car

The drive home was difficult. It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy's belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her son's room.

She started placing the model cars and other personal things back in his room exactly where he had always kept them. She laid down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried herself to sleep.

It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Laying beside her on the bed was a folded letter. The letter said :

"Dear Mom, I know you're going to miss me; but don't think t hat I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just 'cause I'm not around to say "I Love You" . I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day. Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you won't be so lonely, that's okay with me. He can have my room and old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn't like the same things us boys do. You'll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you know. Don't be sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and G randpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me around some, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn't look like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD ! And guess what, Mom ? I got to sit on God's knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That's when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good bye and everything. But I already knew that wasn't allowed. Well, you know what Mom ? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this letter. I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to you. God said for me to give you the answer to one of the questions you asked Him 'Where was He when I needed him ?' "God said He was in the same place with me, as when His son Jesus was o n the cross. He was right there, as He always is with all His children. Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I've written except you. To everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper. Isn't that cool ? I have to give God His pen back now. He needs it to write some more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper. I'm sure the food will be great.


Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt anymore. The cancer is all gone. I'm glad because I couldn't stand that pain anymore and God couldn't stand to see me hurt so much, either. That's when He sent The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery ! How about that ?


Signed with Love from God, Jesus & Me.


( Let's see Satan stop this one. ) Take 60 seconds and repost this, within the hour, you will have caused a multitude of believers to pray to God for each other. Then sit back and feel the Holy Spirit work in your life for doing what you know God loves "When you're down to nothing, God is up to something."

- Author Unknown

Success is Participative And Collective Process

There was a farmer who grew superior quality and award-winning CORN. Each year he entered his CORN in the state fair where it won honour and prizes.

Once a newspaper reporter interviewed him and learnt something interesting about how he grew it. The reporter discovered that the farmer shared his seed corn with his neighbours'.

"How can you afford to share your best seed corn with your neighbours when they are entering corn in competition with yours each year?" the reporter asked.

"Why sir, "said the farmer, "didn't you know? The wind picks up pollen from the ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbours grow inferior, sub-standard and poor quality corn, cross-pollination will steadily degrade the quality of my corn.

If I am to grow good corn, I must help my neighbours grow good corn."

The farmer gave a superb insight into the connectedness of life. His corn cannot improve unless his neighbour's corn also improves. So it is in the other dimensions!

Those who choose to be at harmony must help their neighbours and colleagues to be at peace. Those who choose to live well must help others to live well. The value of a life is measured by the lives it touches.

Success does not happen in isolation. It is very often a Participative And collective process.

So share the good practices, ideas, new learning's with your Family, Team members, Neighbour.

- Author Unknown