Self Esteem !!

How Can A person Build Self-Esteem?

The process is simple, but putting it to work is difficult. Self-esteem is built upon the experience of success. Think of it as a circular process. When people experience success, they grow in self-confidence. As self-confidence grows, they feel empowered to face new challenges. As they succeed in confronting each challenge, they develop the capacity to cope with whatever life throws their way. That feeling leads to further growth of self-confidence, self-reliance and self-esteem

To Maintain Healthy Self-Esteem. ..

* Celebrate your strengths and achievements.

* Forgive yourself for your mistakes.

* Don't dwell on your weaknesses, every human has them.

* Change the way you talk to yourself -- stop putting yourself down!

* Be sure that you are not judging yourself against unreasonable standards.

* Beating yourself for your weaknesses is self-defeating. Use that energy for positive thoughts about you.


People With High Self-Esteem Are...

* Able to accept and learn from their own mistakes.

* Confident without being obnoxious or conceited.

* Not devastated by criticism.

* Not overly defensive when questioned.

* Not easily defeated by setbacks and obstacles.

* Unlikely to feel a need to put others down.

* Open and assertive in communicating their needs.

* Not overly worried about failing or looking foolish.

* Not harshly or destructively critical of themselves.

* Not aggressively driven to prove themselves.

* Able to laugh at themselves, not taking themselves too seriously.


Why Do You Think You Have So Little Strengths Worth Celebrating?

* Because everyone has always pointed out your shortcomings?

* Because you rarely get any positive feedback for a job well done?

* Because the things you do well are so familiar to you that you take them for granted?

* Because you have learned to focus only on your mistakes?


When You Make A Mistake, Do You Say...?

* What an idiot! How can you be so stupid!

* Can't you get anything right! What a loser!

* There you go again! You are not really up to it, are you?

* Who else has talked to you this way in the past?


Why Are You Still Listening To Them?

* You can't change your past, but you can change the way you talk to yourself today.

* Start by making a LONG list of all the good things you have ever done.

* Catch yourself saying nasty things to yourself, then STOP.

* Recite your list of achievements to yourself.

* Convince yourself to be proud of what you have done and of what you are working on doing, on anything you have done for another person, on any improvement in your school work, or on how well you manage your time, your money, your friends, your schedule, etc.

Affirmations for Self-Esteem

There are many things I do successfully. (Write them down if you have to.)

* I can improve my self-esteem by meeting my own expectations.

* I don't have to strive for perfection to approve of myself.

* My worth as a human being does not depend on achieving a perfect weight, or by being the smartest, or the most popular, or the fastest, or having the highest grades, or being the funniest, or having the coolest friends, or getting into the best school, or... (You fill in the rest!)

* I alone am responsible for the decisions I make.

* I am an unique individual.

* Persistence will help me succeed.

* Every mistake I make can be an opportunity to learn. I can't be afraid to make mistakes; this is how I learn to improve.

* I deserve support and will ask for help when I need it.

* I have the power to forgive myself for past mistakes.

* I will treat myself as someone special.

* I determine what success means to me.


Now you make up some of your own!

What is Success?

* To laugh often and much;
* To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;
* To earn the appreciation of honest critics And endure the betrayal of false friends;
* To appreciate beauty,
* To find the best in others,
* To leave the world a bit better; whether by a healthy child, A garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;
* To know that one life has breathed easier because you have lived.

This is to have succeeded.


* Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail."

* "You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love & affection."


* Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear. Except a creature be part coward it is not a compliment to say it is brave."

* The stars are constantly shining, but often we do not see them until the dark hours."


Success comes not from the avoidance of failure. Most of the time, success is achieved only when there has been enough failure."


- Author unknown

Beautiful Inspiring Story

Down to nothing, God is up to something.

She jumped up as soon as she saw the surgeon come out of the operating room. She said: "How is my little boy ? Is he going to be all right ? When can I see him ?"

The surgeon said, "I'm sorry. We did all we could, but your boy didn't make it."

Sally said, "Why do little children get cancer ? Doesn't God care any more ? Where were you, God, when my son needed you ?"

The surgeon asked, "Would you like some time alone with your son ? One of the nurses will be out in a few minut es, before he's transported to the university."

Sally asked the nurse to stay with her while she said good bye to son. She ran her fingers lovingly through his thick red curly hair. "Would you like a lock of his hair ?" the nurse asked.

Sally nodded yes. T he nurse cut a lock of the boy's hair, put it in a plastic bag and handed it to Sally.


The mother said, "It was Jimmy's idea to donate his body to the University for Study. He said it might help somebody else. "I said no at first, but Jimmy said, 'Mom, I won't be using it after I die. Maybe it will help some other little boy spend one more day with his Mom." She went on, "My Jimmy had a heart of gold. Always thinking of so meone else. Always wanting to help others if he could."

Sally walk! ed out of Children's Mercy Hospital for the last time, after spending most of the last six months there. She put the bag with Jimmy's belongings on the seat beside her in the car

The drive home was difficult. It was even harder to enter the empty house. She carried Jimmy's belongings, and the plastic bag with the lock of his hair to her son's room.

She started placing the model cars and other personal things back in his room exactly where he had always kept them. She laid down across his bed and, hugging his pillow, cried herself to sleep.

It was around midnight when Sally awoke. Laying beside her on the bed was a folded letter. The letter said :

"Dear Mom, I know you're going to miss me; but don't think t hat I will ever forget you, or stop loving you, just 'cause I'm not around to say "I Love You" . I will always love you, Mom, even more with each day. Someday we will see each other again. Until then, if you want to adopt a little boy so you won't be so lonely, that's okay with me. He can have my room and old stuff to play with. But, if you decide to get a girl instead, she probably wouldn't like the same things us boys do. You'll have to buy her dolls and stuff girls like, you know. Don't be sad thinking about me. This really is a neat place. Grandma and G randpa met me as soon as I got here and showed me around some, but it will take a long time to see everything. The angels are so cool. I love to watch them fly. And, you know what? Jesus doesn't look like any of his pictures. Yet, when I saw Him, I knew it was Him. Jesus himself took me to see GOD ! And guess what, Mom ? I got to sit on God's knee and talk to Him, like I was somebody important. That's when I told Him that I wanted to write you a letter, to tell you good bye and everything. But I already knew that wasn't allowed. Well, you know what Mom ? God handed me some paper and His own personal pen to write you this letter. I think Gabriel is the name of the angel who is going to drop this letter off to you. God said for me to give you the answer to one of the questions you asked Him 'Where was He when I needed him ?' "God said He was in the same place with me, as when His son Jesus was o n the cross. He was right there, as He always is with all His children. Oh, by the way, Mom, no one else can see what I've written except you. To everyone else this is just a blank piece of paper. Isn't that cool ? I have to give God His pen back now. He needs it to write some more names in the Book of Life. Tonight I get to sit at the table with Jesus for supper. I'm sure the food will be great.


Oh, I almost forgot to tell you. I don't hurt anymore. The cancer is all gone. I'm glad because I couldn't stand that pain anymore and God couldn't stand to see me hurt so much, either. That's when He sent The Angel of Mercy to come get me. The Angel said I was a Special Delivery ! How about that ?


Signed with Love from God, Jesus & Me.


( Let's see Satan stop this one. ) Take 60 seconds and repost this, within the hour, you will have caused a multitude of believers to pray to God for each other. Then sit back and feel the Holy Spirit work in your life for doing what you know God loves "When you're down to nothing, God is up to something."

- Author Unknown

Success is Participative And Collective Process

There was a farmer who grew superior quality and award-winning CORN. Each year he entered his CORN in the state fair where it won honour and prizes.

Once a newspaper reporter interviewed him and learnt something interesting about how he grew it. The reporter discovered that the farmer shared his seed corn with his neighbours'.

"How can you afford to share your best seed corn with your neighbours when they are entering corn in competition with yours each year?" the reporter asked.

"Why sir, "said the farmer, "didn't you know? The wind picks up pollen from the ripening corn and swirls it from field to field. If my neighbours grow inferior, sub-standard and poor quality corn, cross-pollination will steadily degrade the quality of my corn.

If I am to grow good corn, I must help my neighbours grow good corn."

The farmer gave a superb insight into the connectedness of life. His corn cannot improve unless his neighbour's corn also improves. So it is in the other dimensions!

Those who choose to be at harmony must help their neighbours and colleagues to be at peace. Those who choose to live well must help others to live well. The value of a life is measured by the lives it touches.

Success does not happen in isolation. It is very often a Participative And collective process.

So share the good practices, ideas, new learning's with your Family, Team members, Neighbour.

- Author Unknown

Listen & Understand Others !!!

A teacher teaching Maths to seven-year-old Arnav asked him, “If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?”Within a few seconds Arnav replied confidently, “Four!” The dismayed teacher was expecting an effortless correct answer (three). She was disappointed. “Maybe the child did not listen properly,” she thought. She repeated, “Arnav, listen carefully. If I give you one apple and one apple and one apple, how many apples will you have?”

Arnav had seen the disappointment on his teacher’s face. He calculated again on his fingers. But within him he was also searching for the answer that will make the teacher happy. His search for the answer was not for the correct one, but the one that will make his teacher happy. This time hesitatingly he replied, “Four…” The disappointment stayed on the teacher’s face. She remembered that Arnav liked strawberries. She thought maybe he doesn’t like apples and that is making him loose focus. This time with an exaggerated excitement and twinkling in her eyes she asked, “If I give you one strawberry and one strawberry and one strawberry, then how many you will have?” Seeing the teacher happy, young Arnav calculated on his fingers again. There was no pressure on him, but a little on the teacher. She wanted her new approach to succeed. With a hesitating smile young Arnav enquired, “Three?” The teacher now had a victorious smile. Her approach had succeeded. She wanted to congratulate herself. But one last thing remained. Once again she asked him, “Now if I give you one apple and one apple and one more apple how many will you have?” Promptly Arnav answered, “Four!” The teacher was aghast. “How Arnav, how?” she demanded in a little stern and irritated voice. In a voice that was low and hesitating young Arnav replied, “Because I already have one apple in my bag.”

When someone gives you an answer that is different from what you expect, its not necessarily the wrong one. There maybe an angle that you have not understood at all. You will have to listen and understand, but without a predetermined notion. Look out for some gems of 'wrong' opinions, answers, solutions from people around you

- Author Unknown

Dedicate Your Time

Dedicate time to work:
It's the price of success.

Dedicate time to think:
It's the fountain of power.

Dedicate time to enjoy:
It's the secret of youth.
Dedicate time to love and be loved:
It's the source of joy and satisfaction.

Dedicate time to laugh:
it mitigates the stress

- Unknown -

Beautiful Inspiring Message!!

1. Character is the light which shines
When sun is down, and other light are out.
Character is that power,
with which we can win war even losing some battles.


2. 'Care' is the main ingredient that keeps true relatios alive,
despite separation, distance & time.
Since I cant see you, Let my Care be with YOU.


3. You Can live without the person who says 'You Are Mine',
But you can never live without someone who says ' I Am Yours'.
May you always be blessed with such persons in you life.


4. Life is not worth lliving until you have someone to die for......
and Life is not worth dying once you have someone to live for.


5. Rainbow is cute design, as they lovingly shine,
Have you seen an inverted rainbow? You never know that,
It is you smile. Let me see that rainbow forever.

- Unknown

Inspirational Story

Down Is The Best Place To Be
- By Bob Perks


"I've really hit bottom," the young woman said.

"You'll still find hope there," I told her.

"How could I? I'm down so low in life I can't see a thing."

"Down is really a great place to be. Everything is always looking up!" I told her and then went on to explain.

I had been so depressed at one point in my life that I prayed to God to take my life. Every morning when I woke up, I'd curse the day. I was unemployed and in great debt.

But it wasn't until I crashed, literally hitting the floor that my life would change.

My life became very predictable. I had been desperately looking for a job. Each morning I woke up I'd grab the local newspaper from my porch. Bypassing the news, which during that time was depressing enough, I immediately looked for the want ads. Running my finger slowly down the page, I'd carefully scan for something new. Anything that caught my attention would be circled. It was early in 1990. There was little to circle.

That day there was nothing at all.

By this point I had already sent out hundreds of resumes to every conceivable employer within a 100-mile radius of my home. Of course, because of the economy, so did thousands of other unemployed mid-lifers.

I remember that day as clearly as I can see today. Sadness and despair washed over me like sweat on a hot, humid day.

I stood up from the kitchen table and walked, no, dragged myself into the living room. The paper slipped from my hands as I lost all touch with reality. My heart, my mind, my soul, my spirit, suddenly just gave up on life.

I looked up at the ceiling and tears gushed from my eyes.

With every last bit of energy I screamed, "God help me!" and fell to the floor on my knees. I wept openly for a few minutes and rolled over on my side. I lay there crying still, now curled up in a fetal position.

I don't remember much of my time lying there on the floor, but I do remember waking up and finding my Old English Sheepdog next to me.

I, too, was as low as I could be.

You might think, "How sad!" or "How very depressing!"

It actually saved my life.

Jim Rohn, professional speaker and inspirational writer would call such an event, "The day that turned my life around."

Despair and anguish were like an infection running through my system.

Hopelessness and thoughts of being a failure were lies raging within my very soul.

That moment, my crashing to the floor was one of the greatest moments in my life.

I was down so low that "up" was the only option.

I believe, that my cry to God that day told Him that I was ready for Him to take over. Up until that very moment, although I may have prayed for help, I was never really willing to accept it at all.

There is a story about a man in search of an audience with a great Sage. The day they met the man began to tell his story, never ceasing, never yielding to the Sage's input. Finally the Wise Man raised his hand to stop the conversation.

"Would you like a cup of tea?" he asked the man.

"Yes, that would be fine," the man replied and continued speaking.

The Wise Man placed the small tea cup in front of the man and began to pour from the tea pot. He continued pouring until the cup was filled beyond capacity and now overflowing onto the table. "Stop!" the man shouted. "It is more than full!"

The Sage set the tea pot down on the table and said, "You came here for guidance but, like the cup before you, you are overflowing, unwilling and unable to add anything to your life."

Before I emptied myself by letting go of it all that day, I too, was much too full of myself to permit God to take over.

If you are struggling with life and find yourself face down on the floor, remember two things.

"Down is a great place to be, because everything is always looking up."
And..."You can't fall off the floor."